2020

One of my goals this year was upon waking I would not look at my phone and instead I would free write.

I love this technique because it is a way to dump all your thoughts out onto paper without any judgement.

I wrote this the other day and I wanted to share it with you here:

I am not here to tell you that 2020 ( and the first 11 days of 2021) haven’t been hard.

I am not here to dismiss or make you think that you shouldn’t have felt all the feelings ( trust me). 

What I am here to offer is a piece of reflection about what 2020 showed you.

I bet you learned a lot about yourself this past year.

If 2020 has been the hardest year of your life, I am sorry.

I feel for you.

But I bet this last year taught you a whole hella of a lot about yourself.

Maybe even made you confront things in your life that you weren’t ready for.  

I can bet you probably felt one if not all of the following:

-showed you the areas in your life that are not working

- made you really think about your mental health 

-made you appreciate the smallest things in life like hugging someone or being able to go to a grocery store

-made you sit with all of your emotions

-the above probably made you realize that you need help in this department and that IS NORMAL. 

- made you spend way more time than you would have imagined with yourself and your thoughts. 

-made you either eat too much or start a new food habit 

- made you grateful for technology and the fact that at least you could still hear a familiar friends voice. 

The list goes on.

I first want you to know that all of the above and more are normal and that you are not alone.

Secondly, I believe that before we can change anything that we don’t like in our life we first must change our approach to it.

In order to change our approach to the areas of improvement in our life we have to get clear with what is coming up.

We have to understand why these thoughts, emotions, etc are becoming part of our life.

In order to do that it is important to have your own personal pivot plan to fall back on when you don’t know what the next step is.

You got this!

Xo,

Ali

Ali Kates

I teach individuals how to find their healing from trauma. 

https://www.alikates.co
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